What if I don't want to "Grow Up"?
What if you don't want to grow up?
What if the thought of growing up sounds boring to you?
What if trying to check off all the boxes to fit into a society that expects you to "grow up" is the opposite of how you want to live your life?
What then? What happens next.
Well, according to the beliefs passed down to me as a little girl, I haven't reached grown-up status yet. Not even close!
I'm making different choices. I'm finally choosing me, and I don't care what you think about it.
What does choosing me, look like?
I had this conversation with my cousin yesterday in a beautiful trail with the most beautiful fall coloured leaves.
I choose me and my happiness. I choose me and my health and wellbeing. I choose me and what my heart is longing for. I choose me and my freedom to choose. I choose me and personal growth. I choose me and my education. I choose me to be a leader in making the world a better place. I choose me and writing the love story I always dreamed about, not the one I thought I had to settle for. I choose me and not giving my power away to any job, man or person to have the ability to break me down and allow mistreatment over and over again.
I have a love affair with the show, How to Get Away With Murder and the main Character Annalise Keating, who is a female African American lawyer in the United States. To say she is a badass is an understatement. The point of what I'm sharing is that there was one particular episode that I will hold forever. Annalise Keating finally makes it to the Supreme Court to fight and defend a class action against a wrongful prosecution of a man accused of murder and who is supposed to spend his life in Jail. She had a dream as a little girl to be in front of the Supreme Court of the United States and fight a class action case when she grew up. When she finally gets there in the show, she has a moment of uncertainty, fear of failure, letting people down, and starts to take away her confidence in winning before she seizes the moment. Her friend and ally, Olivia Pope, for those of you that know that shows character, says something remarkably empowering...
"Don't do it for me, don't do it for the President, don't do it for the people of America, don't do it for your family, don't even do it for you. Do it for that little girl, Annalise Keating, who was ten years old in Memphis and said that her dream was to eventually grow up and fight a class action in front of the Supreme Court of America. Do it for her."
Boom. Mic drop.
I am 100% committed to the little girl inside of me who wanted big things for herself. The funny thing about my dreams as a little girl was that I knew I wanted so much more than what I saw everyone around me doing. It looked nice on the outside and seemed like the only way to go. As I grew up and learned more about myself, what I wanted, and who I wanted to become, things started to shift.
My choices are hard to understand for some people. I'm choosing to invest my money into myself, my growth and my career before anything else. I'm choosing for the majority of the time to be single versus in a relationship. I'm choosing to spend my money on travel because it gives me so much more than saving my money for a rainy day or a mortgage. I'm choosing to work with clients who genuinely want to work with me because it feels good, not because of desperation, or even because of the money. I want to feel good around the people I work with, and I want it to feel safe and aligned. I choose to spend my time around people who uplift, not complain about their life and how hard it is every day.
Apparently, to the masses, this is not perceived as a grown-up yet. It's not grown up because I don't have a 9-5 secure job, I don't own a home, and I'm not married by 32. I also have limited experience in relationships and have been single for the majority of my life. To say I hate being single is a lie. I love it, and I've felt bad admitting that for a long time because I thought there must be something wrong with me because I'm not like everyone else.
Well, here I am, making choices that make me happy, I feel free, and I can't wait to explore even more of my journey and feel all the feels in the process. I trust in me.
Where do you need to trust yourself more?
Where do you feel like you still need to "grow up"?
What choices are you making that are stepping on your values?
Who are you being with all of that going on?
Want to chat with me about being a grown-up? I'd love to hear it!
Book a complimentary discovery call with me here and let's chat about where you want to be, instead of where you are today.
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Love, Sonia Grossi