The Cloud: Don't Know What you Want

Don’t know what you want? I call this the cloud and if you’re like most people, you’ve been in the cloud at the very least once in your life. If you are like me, you’ve been in the cloud multiple times!Knowing what you don’t want creates more of what you don’t want. If you are one of those people who know what you don’t want, it’s definitely a start, but it’s not enough. We create more of what we focus our thoughts and energy on. Focusing more on what you do want is how to to create more of what you want for yourself and in your life.I’ll give you a small example of how easily I created a vacation for myself because I was specific with my intentions, the experience I wanted to create, and I was committed to creating it. Last year around November/December I began affirming out loud to the Universe that I wanted to travel in March/April. I pictured myself somewhere hot, therefore, down South because Canada ain’t warm right now. Somewhere I can go to a pool or beach and drink mojitos and sugary alcoholic drinks or slushies (yummy), wearing summer dresses, feeling at ease, peaceful, free, and taking excursions to see somewhere I haven't see before. I pictured the smell of a warm hot summer day by the water, the sound of people having wonderful, fun filled conversations, laughing,  and the list literally went on. I didn't know exactly WHERE I wanted to go because I was looking for something that fit my budget. I did know that whatever came my way had to FEEL right in order for me to proceed. A few ideas came into play at first and they didn't end up taking off because I wasn't 100% sure of the opportunity. It didn’t feel right.  I had almost given up on the idea entirely until one of my good friends shared that she had a few vacation days in April and suggested we go somewhere. I suggested we go somewhere hot and she said as long as the price fits, she was all for it. Now, our budgets weren't big and I was determined to find a solution. All I asked of my friend was tell me the most amount of money you're willing to spend. Long story short, we collectively decided on Vegas and I ended up finding something in the perfect location at a great price. Even more than that, I checked my travel points and as it turns out, I had enough to pay for the whole thing!When we truly commit to something we want, we somehow find a way to get it. That’s how the Universe follows through. This trip became my reality because I asked for it and pictured the spot using all the senses (smell, taste, hear etc.) for how I wanted to feel in the reality that was in the future. The Universe responded multiple times with options, however, I didn't settle on options that didn't feel good for me whether it was location, time, or money as examples. Not settling (which is where most of us end the process and decide right then and there) for just any trip that life throws at you is saying, I’m not going to stop until I create my ideal situation.This lesson can be used for so many other areas in life such as finding a partner or finding a job. So many of us give up for what’s available rather than going after what we really want. We all have the possibility to create anything we want as long as we are being specific.I can’t even tell you how many times I was looking for any job that would hire me because I had this belief that what I wanted, I was never qualified for or skilled enough to do. The jobs I ended up saying yes to were never the full package and left me angry, resentful, and devalued. Don’t do this to yourself. We spend so much time at work so instead of getting a job that’s going to leave you depleted everyday. Instead, find something that’s going to energize you so you feel alive in all other areas of your life and the people you come home to are no longer something you avoid because “you’ve had a stressful or overwhelming day”. Wishful thinking? No… it’s possible to enjoy what you do, get paid what you deserve and be respected for your hard work.Getting specific on what you want, who you want to help or serve, and knowing your worth is the best way to navigate the career world. Remember, life will throw opportunities at you and you have to be willing to walk away from the ones that are not aligned with who you are. Just like my vacation example, I didn't settle on the opportunities that didn't feel right and I created one that did. I’m totally pumped about it too!If you want to know how to get out of the cloud, book a discovery session with me or send me an email at sgrossi.consulting@gmail.com and let’s talk.-Sonia