Fear Curbs Possibility

How does it make you feel?I don’t think I’ve been asked the question “how does it make you feel” as many times in my life all in one weekend. This past weekend I was in Detroit retreating. It was one of the most transformational weekends of my life. This weekend was filled with love, support, positivity, power and above all nourishment for my soul. I worked with 5 amazing women entrepreneurs with all different walks of life on a 3 day retreat and we learned so much about each other. I never met them and knew very little, and yet I was the most open and vulnerable I’ve been in a LONG time. Crying in front of a bunch of strangers, no problem! Thank you universe for helping me heal. Jump into the possibility of the unknown and you will be surprised.I learned a lot about fear, possibilities, integrity and language. I found that my language was off and I can fine tune it in order for me to step out of our old versions of ourselves and move into our future and brighter selves.Each woman had a purpose, talent and gift that was extremely unique and beautiful. Although we were all different in terms of family, geographic locations, talents and creativity, we were very much similar. I learned to receive their love and support. Another hard thing for me to do. We talked about joy, choices, thinking patterns, abundance, letting go, envisioning the future, and setting boundaries. MAN did I have a hard time setting boundaries….and these women held me accountable to practice with them. Holding me accountable to my higher self! Who would have thought practicing boundaries to be a difficult thing. Thank you universe for providing abundance and opportunities to practice somewhere safe. My drive to and from Detroit were filled with deep conversations and barriers were removed with someone who is not only extremely talented, beautiful, smart and powerful. Her and I have the same taste in music so I appreciated the connection and company.  I learned so much this weekend about myself and felt so connected to these woman I now call my tribe. Thank you universe for providing my tribe. One of the biggest takeaways I learned from each of these woman including myself is how much of our fears curbs possibility thinking. It literally stops us in our tracks from taking action and we find the most pathetic excuses NOT to do something. Why do we do this to ourselves? We get SO excited until fear creeps in and then we shut off. “I need more time.” “ I don’t have enough money to do that” “They won’t like me if I say that”. “I could never do that” Blah blah blah. Nonsense. Also notice how pathetic this language sounds?Time is what we have NOW. We put everything our hearts desire on hold thinking all we have is forever.  Money is major block for many of us and the only way to make more of it is to remove these blocks. Invest in yourself, learn about yourself, confront and work on the hard stuff.  It isn’t easy and yet totally necessary for a transformation. Staying behind the 8 ball is boring and dull. Have faith and let go of what feels comfortable, safe and watch what happens to your life. I’ve done it and I am continuing the process. It is actually really hard and you'll feel like your in chaos, however, its return on investment is far greater than doing nothing about it. I see so many people burnt out, drained, exhausted and accepting these feelings as a way of life. Accepting anything less than extraordinary is a sign to your higher self saying you do not deserve your dreams. I hear this many times, “yeah it could be better but you can’t have everything you want.”  This “yeah but” is the MOST dangerous language ever. Dissatisfied with a job, income, friends, relationships is the universe telling you something. Yeah but if I quit my job, then I don't have any money and then I need to move and money affects all areas of my life. Why does it have to be this way?  We are not even thinking the possibility of maybe leaving your boring, dull, soul sucking job behind. Start with what happiness looks like. Leaving your boring job can open you up to the possibility of landing the job of your dreams and have the income you feel that is reflective to your real self worth and maybe you'll find the person of your dreams, and maybe you can move to a bigger apartment in the neighbourhood you’ve always wanted. WHY oh WHY do we shut off part of our imaginations that lead us to our dreams. I see this over and again and we ACCEPT the current state of our being is the way life should be. Miserable with a tiny hint of joy sprinkled sporadically.Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us - Nelson MandelaMy powerful moment in Detroit below. I am no longer playing small. I play a bigger game. Detroit International Academy for Young Women speaking assembly, myself and 5 wonderful women entrepreneurs shared our stories showing Detroit's beautiful girls that anything is possible.  I never wanted to play small anyways...[gallery ids="883,884" type="square" columns="2"]Have you read the book or seen the movie Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert? She was a source of inspiration and influence for me. Her story influenced me to tour Europe for 30 days without a job lined up when I returned home. She left everything behind that felt safe and comfortable in New York and travelled for one year to Italy, India and Bali even though her New York people thought it was a BAD idea and it terrified them. Elizabeth knew better and did it for herself. Now, she makes a ton of money from her story by trusting faith and jumping into the unknown for greater possibilities to come her way. This is how we feel alive. It is how we are able to become the brightest versions of ourselves and connect with people who were meant for us. Once you start making decisions for yourself like this, notice how much you’ll start scaring the people around you. It’s going to be hard to move through it and just remember that this is inevitable. You will scare them and they will let you know about it.What are you going to choose? You can choose to make decisions based on your fears because you feel like there is no other choice and wait for it to get better (which it won’t) OR you can choose to be happy and feel alive again like you did when you were very little.  Remember when you were outside and caught grasshoppers for 2 - 3 hours and didn't even notice time flying until some adult shouted your name to come back inside? Yes, I used to catch grasshoppers when I was small...and I wanted to take care of them.. Who does that?If you need clarity and someone to help you confront your fears, give me a call or send me an email and we can talk :)

• Sonia